Did you know massages increase levels of oxytocin which is also known as the hormone of love?
Before even starting the massage, you want to set the mood no matter where you choose to give the massage. The space should be relaxing, quiet and warm. To make the space even more relaxing or romantic, dim the lights, light a candle, and play some soft music.
Another good idea to prepare before starting the massage is to find a good quality massage lotion or oil. Choose one that is not overly scented and make sure there are no ingredients that can irritate your partner’s skin. Coconut oil is a great choice and something you may already have at home.
Now that you have prepared the space and have your lotion/oil, you are ready to begin.
Start with them lying on their stomach. Take the massage oil/lotion and rub between your hands to warm it up.
A great place to start is by working the lotion/oil into their shoulders and down the muscles along the spine. It’s important to always be careful to not put hard, direct pressure on the spine. Press firmly and run your hands down the back and up and around the shoulders.
Squeeze and gently pull the trapezius muscles (upper, middle of the back). Press and slide thumbs along each shoulder blade.
Press and slide hands away from the spine on either side. Move thumbs down on each side of the spine. Be sure to use slow and complete strokes, so your partner feels your intention.
Follow through with the same idea with the rest of the body. Long, slow, methodical strokes up and down each leg, arm, hands, and feet.
For an extra special touch, finish with a gentle scalp massage, without the oil or lotion. Once you are finished, switch spots and have your partner give you a massage!
Keep in mind that you are not a professional, but that doesn’t mean you can’t give a relaxing massage. Your personal touch and care is what is meaningful to this experience!